And I come home. Then I pay my taxes. It was my first education that adulting can be a grind. No, they were teens doing what teens do. All dads envision the ways their kids will grow up, but children have minds of their own and we have to continue to support them. He possessed the gentility dads sometimes require, always offering a sympathetic ear and a kind word when his kids needed him most.
Fathers and Emotional Development
Once you have kids, you realize that time to yourself is as elusive as the socks that go missing in the washing machine. Each day is an exhausting adventure littered with fires that parents have to put out — a child gets hurt, a child gets into trouble at school, a child forgets to do his homework. The late John Mahoney deftly portrayed blue-collar Martin Crane, who was often at odds with his snooty sons, Frasier and Niles. He stands head and shoulders above everyone else and should serve notice that we can always do better.
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And all the hard work we put in, all the sleepless nights we spent next to you and all the support we gave you, is giving you the confidence you need to let go of our hands and fly. I'm in awe of who you already are, and I can't wait to keep watching you grow. But let's not fast-forward time just yet. Instead, let's enjoy today. Because today is what matters right now.
That way we can be more involved in her interests and be able to chat about what we take away from the movie after. It also gives her confidence in knowing that she has a voice that can be heard. One of our favorite choices? The new live-action Dumbo, because it not only opens conversations about being inclusive and putting family first, but it also encourages her to soar to new heights no matter what obstacles he encounters. Like that time that we signed her up for soccer after school.
Initially she was terrified of having to make new friends and the possibility of not being good at the sport.
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Being outside of her comfort zone made her more confident on herself and she enjoys those hours running after a ball so much that now every time we suggest new activities she's excited with the possibility of new adventures and discoveries. When she's afraid, we share examples from characters we love.
He was scared in the beginning but did it! Both hers and ours. We want her to know that our family is a safe place to be honest and heard. We want her to be comfortable around us to express herself openly so we can all grow together. It probably helps a lot that her dad is in the art world, so we have a walking encyclopedia of knowledge with us whenever we go to one. We've already noticed how our daughter is inspired by what we see, and how her little sponge brain is absorbing all the knowledge we put in front of her.
Bring home the new Disney live-action Dumbo adventure to share these special moments with your families. This article was sponsored by Disney. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas. I have a confession: I hate to say "no" to people. I'm a first-born daughter so perhaps it's just in my DNA to a be a people pleaser.
I get a lot of personal identity value from feeling competent and capable. And, truthfully I love saying "yes. I love the "I don't know how you do it" comments, the recognition that I'm the kind of person who always gets things done—they fill me with satisfaction and pride; they fuel me. So when I became a new mama, I said "yes" to it all… to music classes, workout challenges, the Pinterest craft, date nights with friends.
And then I said "yes" some more when I co-founded Motherly while having two young daughters. Do you know what happened? I got burnt out.
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My personal tank was on empty because I'd left no time for self-care. I was doing so much for other people and continually putting myself last. I wish I could say that I came to this realization on my own because I'm incredibly wise, but in the end, my body was the one to force me to take a break.
I developed optic neuritis, temporary blind spots in my right eye and was quickly diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis MS , an incurable neurological disease. Like any significant medical diagnosis, I was rocked to my core and forced to reevaluate everything from my career to my family dynamics, my support structure, my wellness habits—most definitely including how often I said "yes" to everyone and everything except myself.
The good news is, I have amazing doctors and am privileged to have access to cutting edge medical treatments that mean I'm very likely to never fully develop MS. Repeat after me: Self-care is not selfish. Prioritizing your health and wellness as a parent does not make you a '"bad" mom or dad. It makes you a smart parent, an empowered parent, a setting-a-good-example parent. You'll be happier and more fulfilled.
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And as everyone knows, a happy family starts with happy parents and no one is going to decide to serve you up a plate of happiness. Take ownership and make it happen. Living in the present means accepting the limitations of who you are right now. You don't need to do all the things at the same time.
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Some seasons, like when you have a newborn, are going to be a time to hunker down with your family. Other seasons, like when you start a business or new career, are going to lend themselves to a career-focused period of time. When your children gain a sense of independence, your season for volunteering may arrive.
Empty nester? It may be your season to discover a new hobby. And with each new season comes new constraints and new opportunities. That new baby or new career may mean it's not your season to be a class parent or cook home cooked meals every night. Instead, it may be your season to volunteer for a monthly lunch duty shift and schedule a meal delivery service during the week.
And it's okay. There will be a season for the other stuff, I promise. I'm not saying it's easy to say "no" but it does get easier the more you practice. Asked to join a meal train for a new mama? You can say "no" to cooking another home-cooked meal and instead, schedule a healthy delivery service for the night. Trust me, when you're a new parent, any kind of food that you didn't have to cook yourself! Asked to chair a new committee? A perfectly reasonable response is, "I love the work you are doing, but it's just not my season to volunteer outside the home right now.
Responding this way instead of with a "yes" that I'll ultimately regret, has been life-changing for me. It has afforded me the grace of self-reflection to prioritize what means the most to me in my current season, which now includes managing a chronic disease. And here's a secret: The offers and requests won't end. There's no need to suffer from FOMO because there will always be another opportunity. But your health won't wait, especially for those of us fighting a chronic disease.
We must practice self-care religiously because this journey is a marathon, not a sprint.